tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1079034101291925898.post2252427165745594017..comments2022-03-02T14:11:18.392-07:00Comments on Paradykes with a para-tots living in Paradise!: Advice neededparadykeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09925382784693420640noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1079034101291925898.post-20282939231128515022011-06-06T18:41:08.786-06:002011-06-06T18:41:08.786-06:00I know that with my agency's contract if your ...I know that with my agency's contract if your DR says you can't work (for whatever reason) the IPs are responsible for what was previously agreed upon in the contract . . . should be spelled out with an amount per day, etc. I know for me, I too had to use my sick days, etc too . . .<br /><br />It is hard to talk money, I hated that part.Kelly Enders-Tharphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15697645660458179650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1079034101291925898.post-17250706868126655542011-06-04T10:22:24.937-06:002011-06-04T10:22:24.937-06:00Well as an IM, I am on the side of it is the IF...Well as an IM, I am on the side of it is the IF's responsibility.. As the surrogate, the expenses should NOT fall on you, missed work is to be reimbursed. I would think you could talk to them about it and explain what is going on and they will probably be more than happy to cover the lost wages.. Like you said getting an amendment to the contract (you won't need a new one, just amendment) and involving the lawyers will cost more than reimbursing you, ykwim? Good luck though, our contract states we reimburse surro's missed work portion that STD or LTD doesn't cover if that helps!Babydreams2011https://www.blogger.com/profile/05773401619234656260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1079034101291925898.post-69631220742812074792011-05-19T18:10:45.866-06:002011-05-19T18:10:45.866-06:00I'm out of my league here "Betty" so...I'm out of my league here "Betty" so I can't offer any advice other than to hope that your situation improves.Ronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11161930319264523497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1079034101291925898.post-66188072931951815222011-05-09T14:33:28.000-06:002011-05-09T14:33:28.000-06:00I think that sticking to the original agreement is...I think that sticking to the original agreement is a great idea, but I think that the IFs deserve to know. It's their choice if they feel that they can help. <br /><br />I don't mean that it is a specific conversation to be had, but maybe just something said in passing. If they don't pick up on it, fine. If they do but don't choose to do anything with it, fine. If they do and contribute some money for utilities or groceries, fine.<br /><br />It's not a thing that should be said to make them feel guilty, but if you don't tell them and they find out later, they're going to feel guilty anyway.<br /><br />As the parents, they deserve to know what is happening with their child, and by extension, you.<br /><br />And, if they give you something, maybe you don't even use it for yourselves. Maybe you put it into a savings account for your daughter, because she is being impacted by this experience, too.<br /><br />Just some thoughts.TooeleTwinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10104667417655628403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1079034101291925898.post-61360883705442929762011-05-09T09:01:44.721-06:002011-05-09T09:01:44.721-06:00Yes Mark, we have the most amazing set of Intended...Yes Mark, we have the most amazing set of Intended Fathers! We love them very much and can't wait to watch them become fathers.paradykeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09925382784693420640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1079034101291925898.post-78963305584776134292011-05-09T08:02:05.265-06:002011-05-09T08:02:05.265-06:00Please stick to your feelings of not adding extra ...Please stick to your feelings of not adding extra finacial cost to the IFs(I'm new to this world, does that mean Fathers?). In any agreement, I would try to stick to the original plan. As it is, you have the upper hand. All in all, it does show that you are a good person admitting that this would be stressful for them.<br />Good Luck!<br />Your Friend, m.Markhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01049586061176648341noreply@blogger.com