Tuesday, October 18, 2011

Quick Update

Just wanted to do a super quick update. TJ is steadily improving, he's no longer needing oxygen and he's learning how to take his feeds with a bottle. He had been a little jaundiced but it seems to be clearing up. The daddies are adjusting to life with a baby in the NICU and Ash is adjusting to life without a baby playing kick ball with her cervix. I think this process is a lot harder than either of us thought it would be. In no way would we ever not sign the papers giving TJ to his daddies but it's a bit heartbreaking at the same time. Neither of us thought we were "attached" to the little guy emotionally but as humans that is impossible. I think Ash is feeling some PPD which is pretty normal and even some grieving which I would assume is also normal. We see the local lawyer on Thursday to relinquish custody of TJ to his daddies and I think after that we will get out of town for a while. Ash just wants to go somewhere, anywhere but here, so we're getting in the car with Emma and taking off to somewhere on the West coast. I told her we'd just flip quarters to decide which direction to go.

5 comments:

Mark said...

I love your honesty and I'm glad that TJ is doing well.
m.

Mike and Tony said...

My eyes are all welled up and wet. Thank you for being real about the emotion this gift is kicking up for both of you. Tony and I are sending A TON of love and energy out to you both.

Jeff and Kevin said...

I agree. Thanks for keeping it real. What an amazing thing your family has done to help create another. Vacay your hearts out - you deserve it.
K

braejuma said...

Wow...I feel so out of the loop! I havent been on my blog since the "honey Ive been having contractions" post and see what I miss!!! Congrats all around. And like the others said, thanks for being so honest about your feelings...I hope Ill be able to do the same.

Krystal said...

I'm glad the baby is doing better. I know the feelings Ash is going through, I'm sure a vacay will help clear her mind a lot. You both did a great thing!